Wednesday, December 9, 2009

A "Friendly Discussion" (Over A Salad)

Mmmmmm, doesn't that salad look delish? I like to think so but Mr Trail Mix has other ideas...

I'm getting ahead of myself, let's start at the beginning of our story. A few weeks ago, Sir Mix-A-Lot and I sat down with our caterer to hash out the menu details.  She had emailed us her first draft of our menu a few weeks before and the thing that got me the most excited was her salad description:

"Mixed greens topped with raspberries, pine nuts and goat cheese with a balsamic vinaigrette."

That's some serious yum right there, in my mind.  It's actually my favorite salad ever (I don't really like salad or vegetables, so that's saying something!) Mr Trail Mix, though, was less than thrilled.  He felt that it was a "girl" salad and that the those with the XY chromosome pairing might not be so into it.  I felt that that was an utterly ridiculous concern and said so. A few huffy words later, the subject was dropped and we decided to wait until our meeting with Debbie (our caterer) to get back into it.

At the meeting, everything started out smoothly.  We decided on a rental company, oohed and ahhed over the appetizer selection, easily chose our main course dishes and were thrilled when Debbie said she could do our strawberry shortcake dessert.

But the salad debate, oh the salad debate...Needless to say, it took a lot of discussion (sometimes heated, mostly on my part) for us to reach a decision.  There was much tightening of the vocal cords, eye-brow raising and finger-gesturing but we finally came to a conclusion everyone felt happy with...We're going to have two salad options!

Since we're serving our food family-style, Debbie said she could just as easily have 2 smaller bowls of salad on the tables as opposed to 1 larger bowl so we're adding a classic caesar as the other option.  Bonus because that's my second favorite salad and now our guests can have all the salad their little hearts desire.

So I guess the moral of this story is:

1) The bride always gets her way.

2) Since rule number 1 isn't exactly fair, it's nice to try as hard as you can to help the groom get what he wants as well.

3) Try to find vendors who can offer you various options so both the bride and groom can get their ways...

4) If you and your fiance are really at an impasse regarding an important decision, refer back to rule #1...

Anyone else have a "friendly discussion" with their fiance over something stupid (like a salad?)


  1. Thats an excellent solution and I'm sure the guests will appreciate the variety. We have plenty of these so called friendly discussions over things that really don't matter at the end of the day :)

  2. That first salad looks delicious! Pick your battles!

  3. Your rules are amazing...can I steal them? Funny, we are arguing over the salad 'dressing' at our rehearsal dinner. There will be about 45 guests and they only allow you one dressing option. We couldn't agree on what would be a good 'basic' dressing everyone would like. I said Italian, he wanted some creamy basil pesto thing. Don't get me wrong, I love creamy basil pesto but not *everyone* does...Italian seems more universal to me. Alas, we are going to 'force' the manager to allow 2 dressing options.

    I have a feeling your fiance will be shocked to see your salad choice devoured before the cesar :) As much as I love both, I find that the salads like the one you chose tend to be totally fine for all at weddings - and most men actually like those!